Social media, YouTube is all filled up with videos of this lavish wedding where the whos who (although it doesn't really matter) showed up. I might seem a cynic when I say this but it was an ugly display of wealth, but but if I got the moolaah i will spend it so I should not be judging it. Will I also look for something like this? Mmmmm, if I draw comparisons with the functions held in my own family, we don't fare well either when even the cars for the baraat of my brothers' wedding had to be colour co-ordinated to only SUVs including AC coach buses that were practically empty as we had so fucking many SUVs, and the bride's family has kept fields vacant that season as we needed parkings, mind you parkings for cars we couldn't give a number because they were actually too many. This is just one tad bit of example. And this is not limited to wedding, my grandmother's funeral ceremony feast had a crowd of more than 3000 people. Some things are so impinged in our minds, that I remember one of the person I knew said that their relative prepared to shower counterfeit currency notes during the wedding and I was literally scandalised like literally shocked that who on this earth showers counterfeits (and when I shared it with my family members and cousins even they went aghast and said they had not seen it till date), it has to be original proper crisp notes that I have forever seen in my family, in my relative's weddings, rain of proper original, just out of bank crisp notes where 10 rupee notes are embarrassment, it has to be more than that. And if it is being showered for a close relative nothing less than 100 makes sense. And even while i write this I feel is so normal, like this is what happens, why do we have the money, its for these very things and frankly I enjoy it when its king-size else I skip such gatherings. Oh, wow so wonderful, my whole write-up idea has gone kaput as i realise I am no different.
We all grow up in a certain surrounding, with access to resources and are habitual to that standard, anything less than that standard disturbs our emotional setting. Then we hang around with similar people, almost same standards and we are continuously climbing the social ladder so that setting also keeps increasing and so does the standard. And we are constantly maintaining that status, that standard, trying to raise the bar all the time.
I am not trying to justify but there are a few places where I do try to hover around necessities and not luxury. The first thing that comes to my mind is clothes, I have never been very brand conscious, the only thing that matters to me is comfort and if I find it suitable for me (I don't care what others think how it looks on me). There have been instances when my brand conscious friends ask me what brand is it and I reply I don't know, even if it is from their list of acknowledged brands. I don't mind repeating my clothes 100 times as long as it is wearable. Many times I get my naturally rugged jeans ;) I can easily change my gadgets as frequently as possible but I am proud of myself on the way I take care of my gadgets. They are squeaky clean, scratch free and in wonderful working condition. Just yesterday my nephew held my phone and said that you do take good care of your electronic stuff and I replied I do and its very easy even you will do it. Gizmos keep upgrading every single hour and marketing gimmicks add on to their face value and we make a run for it, upgrading it all the time, and creating e-waste in the process that is so damn difficult to dispose. I had met this girl who was so proud that she had an I-phone and she boasted it to her colleagues that she had it and her skills, talent, qualifications, manners were shit, and guess what, one day she rubbed me her I-phone attitude, well wrong person this time, I rubbed my skills, and qualifications and girl Oh girl, her I-phone did not crack but her attitude did.
I do not have a collection of purses or shoes or bags or coats, but I do confess that they are not less than 8 or 9 each but I do not have urges to grow the collection, I use them to max possibility and go ahead with new sets but I do add to them whenever I like something a lot. But I do make it a point not to exceed a certain number.
I will definitely not use this platform to discuss my social responsibility efforts and little things I do to return back to society, but I do go and extra mile for that and this is one standard I want to keep raising for myself.
We all have lifestyle choices, some are inbuilt in us as we grew up in that setting, some develop with time as we work towards a better tomorrow and some we try to copy from others. I guess the copying aspect is something we could let go off, attitude is definitely a No-no, and if we could move towards a sustainable, eco-friendly lifestyle nothing like it.. In the end, its just being Happy that matters, here only one condition applies that happiness is beyond brands and is true in every sense.. Now I am thinking what am i wearing to that big fat wedding party of my family friend, its so freaking cold but fashion is fashion and gulab jamun without ice-cream is a must.......
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