Let’s bring a beautiful heart into Fashion, not faces and dresses!

 

Just yesterday I was reading an article and it had before and now pictures of social media influencers and I noticed one common thing in quite a few of them. Can you guess?? Their faces had changed, and the change was not natural. I mean our appearances also change as we age,  and not just age grooming, good diet, exercise, emotional health etc all these factors also have a big impact on our physical appearance. But the change I am talking about here is through artificial things, cosmetic surgery and fillers and all, like permanent changes.

Now, first of all I would prefer not to comment on why they did it, what prompted them to do it and do they look good or bad now! No, not at all!! This is not a domain I would want to discuss to ponder on. It’s fine, they wanted it, and they did it. They feel good about it; it gives them confidence and satisfaction, wonderful! The whole idea of judging someone, based on their looks, clothes, even personality for that matter has to go out of fashion now. People are getting insane trying to look a certain way, dress a certain way, financially and mentally both. No matter how shitty a person is by heart, as long as they look good people will flock them, especially on social media. Personality is of course the key and I would definitely steer away from such people who are toxic. But again, coming back to the topic, if a person went under the knife or got things injected in their bodies, as long as it makes them happy and satisfied, its good (for them).

Now, what actually made me think about this whole issue was, I have seen a few such social media influencers, intentionally and unintentionally, because, duh social media is everywhere. And the thing that pricked me was, quite a few of them talk about body positivity, be yourself, love yourself as you are and all this. This precisely is what bothered me. How can one talk about loving oneself and telling their followers, especially young girls and boys of impressionable age to love themselves and then get surgeries and fillers done to their faces and bodies? Blabbering about, Oh you are beautiful just the way you are, believe in yourself, love yourself, you are perfect and all these things. Yes, I completely agree to this idea that we need to encourage people to love themselves just the way they LOOK, there is nothing wrong in those eyes, nose, lips, boobs (as long as they are not a medical concern). But how weird is it that I talk about loving oneself as it is and coming the next day in my video/post with swollen lips or sharper nose or bigger boobs all done through surgery or fillers!!! Don’t you also not find this problematic ? Practice what you preach!! Else what is with this fake body positivity rant! We all are a part of this vicious cycle of setting parameters on everything and then judging people on it, creating such undue pressure and stress. Why is only a certain look, a certain skin color, a certain nose shape, a certain lip shape, a certain body type only considered beautiful? Why is it not inclusive of all skin colors, body types?

Yes, I am also guilty of being friendlier or forthcoming to people who looked good or wore fancy clothes at one point of time, but yes the only saving grace that I will give myself is that as soon I realized that the person was an asshole personality I distanced myself from that toxicity. And I did not avoid or run away from people who were, not so called “beautiful or handsome” or who did not wear brands. Also I remember that many a times a few people in my friend circle used to ask me oh your t-shirt looks good or your shoes look good and then the next query used to be what brand is it? And most of the times I was like I will have to check the brand. Anyway, let me not glorify myself, yes I have also done it but yes never preached something opposite of what I practiced.

Its fine, get your nose chiseled or lips filled, it’s okay, perfectly okay. But I request the “influencers” to not do a Ballad of fake self-love to others, many people look up to you, you can truly bring a big positive change, break the shackles of these stupid beauty/ outward appearance standards set so high.

Let’s bring a beautiful heart into Fashion, not faces and dresses!