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Everyday may not be the same… and its OKAY!


Always be happy… Try to be happy…

We keep hearing and many a times feeling also that is something wrong with me if I am not happy. I am also guilty of feeling and suggesting to others that “Be happy”. But the point is who doesn’t want to be happy? Who wants be sad and gloomy and crying? I definitely don’t!!

I have heard this term called “fake positivity” and it has diverse meanings, faking to feel happy may also not be the thing that we need to do. Just yesterday I was having a discussion with someone who is hurting because of something and that thing has been bothering her for a long long time. And she was sad about it, she was pained about it and she was venting it out to me. I was just listening to her and listening to her. I didn’t want to give any suggestions to her to be happy, try to be happy, and try to divert your attention from that thing and blah blah blah. Why?? Because what purpose will it serve, as she is suffering because of that reason, if it is hampering her life, blocking her work and affecting her work how will she be not bothered by it?

It is very normal to be affected by events, words, actions, be it positive or negative. If something makes us happy another thing can make us sad too, right? Then what is this immense pressure to “stay happy”.

But, yet again, it also does not mean that we are forever drowned in that sadness, in that gloom, always crying, feeling guilty etc. If something is hurting, something is bothering then it surely needs to be overcome with whatever is possible. Be it sharing, caring, and seeking help, exercising, meditating, whatever is working. I also, when I am down or sad or feel like the world is crashing down, or I see no future or I feel it’s over I have a few things that I do. Somehow a strong coffee makes me feel better, or loud energetic songs, or a walk or talking to someone and venting out all my frustration or sometimes just changing the place where I am sitting or lying down. But they are also not sure shot instant solutions, sometimes the sad phase lasts for quite some time and as long as I am trying to come out of that sad feeling I think its ok even when I am not ok.


 

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