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  Places to visit before you are 20, goals to achieve before you are 25, Assets to build before 30, how to retire in your 30s….. Do these taglines look familiar? Well, they do to me. All these pages and channels that are telling us to achieve something with attached times lines, 20s, 30s, and 40s. So many times I am visiting those pages or channels to find motivation and it actually ends up demotivating me, and I am like Oh No, I am too late for this. And I feel that slight regret of “Oh I wish I had started then” but yes I bounce back very soon. But this is a current phase in my life when I am comfortable with a lot of things and most of all I am comfortable “Being Me at this point in life”, I love it where I am today. Hold on, hold on it’s not about preaching where I blabber you should do this you should do that blah blah blah. I remember I was watching this video where the person was talking about investments and tips to invest and all, everything was going great and then he s...

  Just yesterday I was reading an article and it had before and now pictures of social media influencers and I noticed one common thing in quite a few of them. Can you guess?? Their faces had changed, and the change was not natural. I mean our appearances also change as we age,  and not just age grooming, good diet, exercise, emotional health etc all these factors also have a big impact on our physical appearance. But the change I am talking about here is through artificial things, cosmetic surgery and fillers and all, like permanent changes. Now, first of all I would prefer not to comment on why they did it, what prompted them to do it and do they look good or bad now! No, not at all!! This is not a domain I would want to discuss to ponder on. It’s fine, they wanted it, and they did it. They feel good about it; it gives them confidence and satisfaction, wonderful! The whole idea of judging someone, based on their looks, clothes, even personality for that matter has to go ou...

  1. Mental health Crazy, Mad, Wierdo!! These words generally have a negative connotation attached to them and therefore, none of us want to be that in our “sane” minds. It is one taboo topic that none of us want to discuss but we definitely need to discuss. We all are going through something that is bothering us, or maybe something is making us sad or we might be feeling low, questioning our choices, sometimes crying sometimes just hanging on. But we are so scared to share it, maybe it’s the fear of being labelled “mental or unstable”. What is it with us, as a society or as an individual? Why are we so in a hate relationship with anything related to mental health? There is also this issue that the only synonym for mental illness is the person is now nuts, now this person will become dysfunctional, or not normal now, or severely ill now. It is this precise misdiagnose or bad nomenclature or misunderstanding that we all are afraid to seek advice or help or even share our feelings ...

Source: https://pixabay.com/illustrations/attitudes-dualities-polarities-833418/ What are negative thoughts in a simple understanding? When the mind is thinking about all the wrongs, what went wrong, what is going wrong and what could go wrong. All the mind thinks is how the situation could be worse. And surprisingly most of the times it's just an exaggeration of thoughts. The simplest example which all of us could relate to is when one of our loved one is not picking the phone or is not yet back home after a regular timing of return. We start calling the person on their phone and they miss to pick it once, then maybe twice or thrice. They could be in a meeting, their phone could be on silent mode or they might be driving back home. Or better still they might be out shopping or ordering something to surprise you and intentionally do not pick so as to not ruin the surprise. But.. But.. But.. Holy shit has started to race in our minds and mind you, none of them is good, none of ...

When you and me walk the path The path lightens up with our talks, As we tread on it with matching steps Our heartbeats sync and become one with nature, When you and me sit in the grass The grass gets greener with the power of our love, The flowers around emanate their best scents, The birds and bees sing their love songs, Our senses brim with joys and colours and fragrances and music. When you and me look at the sky The sky shines bright and the sun dazzles, The blue colour gets shades of pink red and white, When you and me look at the stars Moon and stars illuminate the night sky, The moon wants to look at us being together And comes nearer to the earth almost hugging it, The stars, new and old, twinkle and want to be counted, When you and me are arms in arms The whole universe comes to rest, It is a standstill so that there is no disturbance, Every entity is at peace as you and me are together, When you and me look into our eyes We can see the infiteness of th...

Why this happened and How this happened. Fundamentally “Why” is looking for reasons on what went wrong, and “How” prompts analysis. When I ask myself ‘why did this happen ' the whole paradigm starts with a sad thought process . There is a search for everything that went wrong , maybe here it went wrong maybe there it went wrong. As if the brain already knows that something is not correct, something is amiss, something did not go as planned. Whereas, if I ask myself, ‘how did this happen’ the mind automatically sets into a sense on inquiry . Every action, detail starts to run through a scanner and gets analyzed , this step was right, pass, this step was wrong, bingo here it is. It’s a self-thought that cropped in my mind when I was thinking about how I get stressed in certain situations when I am tested and tried by circumstances. Whenever I was asking myself, why me, why now, why not someone else, it always started a chain of negative thoughts.. And when   I ...

How many times do we ignore the calls of our parents due to ongoing meetings, get-together or whatever has caught us up at that time? At least in India there are curfew timings and when the clock is hovering around that time the phone calls from Mom start pouring in as to where we are, when we are returning and so on. And, to be frank, it bothers me too when I am out with my friends and despite informing at home that 'I will be late', after a certain point of time my phone starts buzzing with 'Maa ka phone aaya'. Most of the times, I am irritated with the constant prodding, I guess this is one thing that always bothers me, no matter who asks me this, about my whereabouts and what time will i return and blah blah. But while introspecting I realise the fear that my mother must be having, about me being safe, laughing and enjoying as for her also she took a leap for me to let me live my life on my own terms. She has given me the freedom but the social conditions have not ...