Why and How.. Self Musing!

Why this happened and How this happened.

Fundamentally “Why” is looking for reasons on what went wrong, and “How” prompts analysis.

When I ask myself ‘why did this happen' the whole paradigm starts with a sad thought process. There is a search for everything that went wrong, maybe here it went wrong maybe there it went wrong. As if the brain already knows that something is not correct, something is amiss, something did not go as planned.

Whereas, if I ask myself, ‘how did this happen’ the mind automatically sets into a sense on inquiry. Every action, detail starts to run through a scanner and gets analyzed, this step was right, pass, this step was wrong, bingo here it is.

It’s a self-thought that cropped in my mind when I was thinking about how I get stressed in certain situations when I am tested and tried by circumstances. Whenever I was asking myself, why me, why now, why not someone else, it always started a chain of negative thoughts.. And when I asked how, I always summoned the steps I took for that work/task and the obviously I ended up solving that problem or being at peace that I had done everything right, it was other factors that had hampered that work which were beyond my means to rectify.

Although this introspection was initiated because I used to be super stressed on work on certain days and questioning why this did not happen could also get the answers but how this did not happen gave more insight into the issue and the convincing was far more rational.

It is my personal take on two simple yet decisive words.. Individual viewpoints may or may not differ.. But, the whole idea is to analyze the steps taken for a task, the solution lies just there….

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