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Hullabaloo around MeToo!!

There are various movements that spring up and then stay and fizzle.. Reminds me of one of my lectures that I gave to my students about how a social movement takes form and reaches its peak and then quietens, maybe fizzles maybe suppressed or maybe people got bored of that in fashion theme. I had thoroughly enjoyed reading for that lecture.. Why am i talking about social movements all of a sudden? M I jumping on any bandwagon as I was feeling left out or my social media page doesn't boast of a content that is in fashion? Well, I had first acknowledged the fact that Hollywood was open and out about 'Times Up' and 'MeToo' and how much we needed it and it did happen when Tanushree Dutta spoke about her ordeal. But then we had this human caricature come out do what she does best, drama, created a mockery of the movement, without realising how crucial it was for each and every one of us alive, today being knocked out in a wrestling game. Sometimes I wonder all the plastic in her body is generated from her brain that are used for her various implants!!! And then we have these set of evolved film industry members who are all for equality and all fancy words have been quiet today, yesterday, for weeks, months and years and probably will continue to be so as their children will never face it as it 'all runs in the family', the entire film industry being flocked by relatives (all of them are related to each other in some way or the other, but nepotism doesn't exist for them)
Coming back to the movement, every single day I read excerpts in the papers about how a certain film industry person did something unforgivable to vulnerable women and it disgusts me to the core to read and understand that how do people around them deal with such monsters. People in power, be it emotional or organisational consider it  a perk to their position and think that they need a give and take, so much of bartering and calculation makes me wonder about their grades in maths and accounts.
I was browsing one of my social media feeds and came across an update in one of my networks about such harassment, abuse and of course people were angry, sad, sympathetic, this and that. And again, the apprehensions on the allegations. I don't know how people comprehend it but actually, ACTUALLY it takes immense courage for a woman to come out and speak about such abuse, be it that very moment, be it in a few months or years or maybe in their deathbeds, it Bloody takes immense courage to shout out against their harasser(s). For once, we could just lend a quiet, composed ear to them would be enough (of course we have a choice to do hundred other things to 'victimise' the  harasser).
Harassment, abuse of power, taking advantage of vulnerabilities, all these are so easy and enjoyment to some ( always I end up pondering that did that Human already die before doing all this). And people keep saying that this has happened for ages and this and that, an most of the times fear of society, colleagues, those 4 people stops the sufferer to speak out. Imagine their sufferings, their pain, their inability to change it, how suffocating it would be for them and the least we can do is support them, not shame them, not mock them, not scandalise the 'stories'... Little changes we could do in ourselves to herald a better tomorrow!!!!!

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