Don’t show off:
Half the world will be happy
if they stopped worrying about making others happy with their new car or their
new phone or their new dress. Previously it was about showing off to relatives
and friends, and now with social media it’s like, ever one is on a race to show
off to the whole world. Every single thing has to go on social media like, look
I have the latest phone, people click photos standing in front of the mirror
showing the logo of their phone, its doesn’t matter if the photo of the
individual has come out good or not , but the logo should be visible under all
circumstances. Anyone is buying a new car, first it has to be live streamed, shown
to the entire world first. I sometimes
wonder if such people actually feel the real emotion of the moment ? I mean, do
they really give themselves a pat, an appreciation, gratitude. Wouldn’t it be
difficult as the whole focus is on capturing it through artificial lenses, and
more so because it is being done to show it to others and not for oneself. Its not that bad, its perfectly fine to tell
the world that wow I am so happy today, I got a new car, I bought it with my
hard earned money, but it becomes a problem when it is about showing off,
bragging about it. In the process of
live streaming it, we miss the real emotion in the moment. This is about social
media braggings. It happens in real life also, everything becomes about others,
what will they think, how will they perceive etc. if we have achieved
something, it will speak for itself, it has not be made obvious. Specially on
the internet, what seems as that everyone is soooo happy, soooo successful
wearing branded clothes and what not but how much of that is real, or how does
it matter if XYZ has something, its just a thing, just a shoe, just a . If it
serves as a motivation to upgrade ourselves as a person, in our job then it is
fine else its not worth it.
Talk less
Talking less over here does not mean not expressing or not
opening up, its actually about being quiet to open up to others, to conserve
energy, to collect thoughts or to analyze.
When we are talking, we are expressing ourselves, what we think about
that particular situation or what we are feeling or what we are curious about,
it all depends under what circumstances it is happening. All our senses are
busy to vocalize our thoughts and ideas. Being receptive is also crucial for
good and meaningful conversations. Conserve that energy, observe things more,
analyze, learn. When we are talking less, somewhere we are observing more,
which in turn is helping us grasp more detailed information that we can use to
think critically. Sometimes less can be more.
Learn daily
When is the last time you learn something new skill, a new
word, some new technology?? I also, for
a really long time did not intentionally make an effort to learn something new.
If while doing something or searching something if I learnt something new that
was about it. But not anymore, now I make it a point to learn something new
every day, even if it means a new vocabulary, of something informative from the
internet, from Youtube videos. Yes I know most of us are caught up in this
rigmarole of everyday life where we have
a job to do, or hundreds of things
managing our homes or finishing our assignments or projects, tackling
deadlines. These things in this race for
life, we actually stop to learn new things. Learning new things not only makes us more
aware about the upcoming things it keeps us updated, it actually also activates of brain cells as
well so mentally, physically and emotionally learning new relatable things
actually make us more healthy. In
today’s fast pace world, every single day a new software, a new technology
in being developed, and in just a blink of an eye the existing softwares
become outdated, so we really need to
update and upgrade to be more relevant. And acquiring knowledge just for the
purpose of job is not the only reason, its just not new technology it is also
going back to our ancient texts, and learning things from them too to make our
lives richer. Learning about nutrition, mediation, computers, gardening,
cooking, well the whole idea is that we get better and efficient in whatever we
do and it also instills a sense of self pride and confidence.
Help others
There is a sense of gratitude and then there is a feeling of
being worthwhile. Do you remember the last time when you helped someone, even
If a small gesture, how did it feel? It felt awesome, right? Or how did you
feel when you were caught in a problem and then someone came in and helped you
out of it? A sense of relief, mixed with thankfulness and how good people make
this world a better place! Helping is totally an optional gesture, its on us,
do we want to do it or we don’t want to do it. But if one gets an opportunity
to pull someone out of a situation there is nothing like it, the feeling of
being worthy, that satisfaction is immense. It can be anything, helping someone
at work, being there as an emotional support, guiding someone, mentoring
someone, pulling them out of a hard time, it could be anything. Help is always
not about giving money or things, it can be just being there. But yes of course
one has to beware of people who are like parasites, they will not do their
work, or will not manage their finances and will always be in trouble because
of mismanaging things and then are always looking for help from others. Such
people are never thankful also and will always continue to bother, so one may
feel being used also at times. Helping others should make us feel positive and
being used. So, if one has the time and resource and someone genuinely needs
help, it is always a good idea to be that good human being who makes his world
a better place to be.
Laugh more
This is one of the most important and most missed out activity
by almost all of us. We all tend to do be brooding in our sorrows and in our
struggles of everyday life that we forget to laugh. Sometimes days pass and we
might not have had a hearty laugh. But when we are laughing, every worry every
negative emotion just disappears in the thin air, even if it is for a short
time. Laughter is so powerful that for that moment it’s just happiness. It not
only uplifts the mood, it also has many physical benefits too, and when we
laugh it initiates the release of so many happy hormones in our body,
endorphins, feel good hormones give us a sense of wellbeing, serotonin work as
antidepressant, laughter also relieves pain at times. So many benefits and we
don’t value it! A mere sound of laughter can make us feel happy. There are
laughter therapies where people laugh loudly intentionally to get that
temporary sense of relief and surprisingly it does bring that effect. Imagine if we can get that much of relief by
actually initiating a fake laughter then how much of relief we will get when we
are genuinely laughing. Watch anything that makes you laugh, read funny stuff,
memes, spend time with friends and family, laugh over silly jokes. Be a child,
laugh at every opportunity, smile and invite more happy moments.
Ignore bullshit
There are so many things in this world that are meaningless,
especially the things that people say after judging people. What is the use of
paying attention to such meaningless things or things that affect our mental
health or our mental state? Instead of
focusing and wasting our energy on such nonsense things it is way better to
spend our energies on something more creative or something more constructive.
We can spend the same time on reading; we can spend the same time talking to
people who motivate us, people who teach us something valuable, people who make
us feel loved, people who make us feel worthwhile. There are so many people who
are out there to discourage us, to demotivate us and tell us things that this will
not work that will not work. How is it helping us in any way? So what is the entire point of spending our
precious time on such baseless things? People
will have opinions, people will have thoughts, which will be influenced by
their mind set or their thought process but does it really fit in our lives? We
really have to think about how is it helping us grow and if anything is not
helping us grow there is no use continuing to do that. so overall what is good
for us we know it really well and advices and suggestions that help us grow are
to be welcomed or if there are any criticisms that will help us improve in our
life that can be thought of, apart from that everything else is useless it's a
waste of time it's a waste of energy and it's not worth it.
Be minimalistic
Yes I know we all are so much attracted to the flashy
lifestyle that people live specially the flashy photographs on social media , Instagram
where people are constantly uploading
stuff that showcases branded things, carrying branded bags, shoes, watches, cars
and all the songs that we keep listening to where the hero is driving a
Lamborghini. It can be an extension of the first point mentioned in this post
where the focus in not to show off. It’s perfectly fine if we have worked hard,
completed a project or we have surplus resources to buy stuff that is an option
then we can get it. If our focus is more on how we look, what we wear and not
on what we are then probably we need to audit our thought process. A very
simple example, have you ever noticed what clothes do these uber rich successful
people wear, what cars do they drive? You would be surprised how simple and
minimalistic they are in their real lives.
Self-happiness is by far the most important thing we all
should practice. Find what makes you happy, make yourself happy. Then share that
happiness and give that happiness to people who really mean something in your
life, who will love you no matter what. Social media is full of photo shops,
plastic and sponsored posts, it can be unreal, don’t fall into that trap of
comparing yourself to all that you see there. Be considerate to your own self
and make yourself happy and healthy because you want to and not because of some
random social media trend.
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